Body Language: The Arms and Legs

Reading body language is like listening to someone talking.  The body language signs you observe can have several different meanings – or none at all.  (Just like the words people say.)

To get it right, simply:

  1. Follow the “5C method” in the Free body language cheat-sheet (to get yours, click here)
  2. Check the possible meanings of the different body language signs liste below.

The Arms

- By the side and away from the body

–> confident, strong

– Closed, crossed

–> uninviting

–> protective

– Touching someone’s arm

–> sympathy

–> subtle invitation to trust or intimacy

You can subtly influence people and seduce men or women using this. Just as brushing someone’s hand (see Hands), touching someone’s arm makes them more likely to trust you and like you.

The Legs

- Swagger (men), or discreet swishing hip walk (women)

–> seductive, subtle flirting

– Crossed over the knee or at the ankle

–> relaxed, but not completetly at ease

Ankle crossing over the knee (mainly men)

–> confidence, arrogance or assertiveness

– Leg twine (women)

–> physical attraction

 – Uncrossed legs, slightly open

–> inviting body language, open to communication

– Touching their thigh

–> usually unconsciously, sign of attraction

(of course this does not apply if the person is walking or dancing)

– Hands in front of groin or chest area

–> closed pose, protective, defensive, not at ease


The Feet

In a nutshell, our feet tend to point in the direction our mind wants to go.

– Jiggling or Tapping

–> nervous gesture or bored (this is not necessarily a sign of irritation as you might sometimes hear)

– Turned in your direction

–> interested in you

–> interested in what you are saying

If you are trying to influence someone, or to seduce a man or a woman, consciously point your feet towards that person.

– Turned towards the door

–> lack of interest, impatient to get out (avoid this position when trying to influence someone!)


Want To Know For Sure?

The Golden Rule of Reading Body Language:

Look for other signals with the same possible meaning – in different areas of their body or communication.


Because a body language signal by itself can mean many things.

To know which meaning is correct, you need to look at:

– Clusters of signs:  Other signals that could have the same meaning (at least 2 or 3)

– Context:  The context of the situation such as the environment, person’s habits, and topic of conversation.

These are 2 of the “5C Method” I recommend.

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